I hope to keep this short. I mean, most parents don’t have time to read a lengthy article. With work, keeping a house up, homework and running children to sports practice, etc., it can become a blur.
I knew I wanted to be a mother. What I wasn’t prepared for was how challenging it would be. I thought my love would be enough. When my children were young, I had many days were I felt overwhelmed and ill equipped. I tried to do everything right. I read books. I asked my peers. I tried to make sure my children had everything they needed.
I wanted my home to be a sanctuary for peace, joy, patience and unconditional love. I also wanted it to be a place of safety and comfort. I’d learn that these moments come when you embrace, allow, forgive, heal and bond. This was a learning curve for me since one usually parents how they were parented and I was raised in a house that had many challenges – many lessons unlearned. I often had to step back and think on my parenting style – to make sure it was my parenting style.
To make this simple, I recommend just a few things.
Be available. Your child needs you. Rarely is it when it’s covenant. Trust me though, the timing is perfect. It is for a reason. Don’t ignore these moments.
Encourage family meditation. Make time on the weekends. Sure, a quiet hour would be ideal but allow each to find their own style. Maybe you need to listen to soft music in a dimly lit room while your teen needs to jam out (with ear buds) in their bedroom, while another needs to journal or paint. It’s a time to relax and re-group, to come back to your center, your fuel in your own way. You can also try a group meditation and then discuss it afterwards.
Encourage playing, singing and dancing with life. Encourage thinking outside the box and creativity.
Also, look at your home. Does it reflect peace, harmony and tranquility? Making a few small changes in your home can dramatically raise the energy level. Let go of a few things… the clutter. It is your mirror. Try letting go and donating. Paint a room a happy color, start a small garden or bring a plant in.
Know that your child chose you. What an honor. They knew you wouldn’t be perfect. Just perfect for them. They knew you’d teach them and that they’d teach you. Remind them of their inner being. Their inner goodness. Often this can be done by giving a smile… a hug, a calm look into their eye… a reminded to breathe. Love. Just love.
If your reading this, know that you’re a wise and knowing parent. Know that you are right where you need to be, doing just what you should be. If that statement doesn’t settle well with you, then question and take action to align to your being and purpose in this life. You can do this. Love is enough! Enjoy parenting.
(You can also watch my YouTube on Spiritual Parenting for more of my thoughts on the parenting journey.)
About the Author: Molly Brown
A few years ago, at the age of 39, I left my career and home town and started fresh. Crazy and scary – an understatement, but at the time, it felt like a necessity. I’d have no idea what I really started was an amazing spiritual journey which is now my passion and lifestyle. Now living along the coast of North Carolina, I AM a mother of teens, a fiancé, a writer and… spiritual being who is very human. I feel blessed to have learned all that I have and wish to share my perspective to encourage and inspire other soul seekers. Let evolve together! For more information, please visit my personal blog at: http://2020spiritualvision.wordpress.com/