Emotional Vampires

Emotional Vampires
June 27, 2013 Millie Parmer



Why do we allow others to rattle us and shake our spirits with negativity?  I had a bad day yesterday.  I don’t have many bad days.  I am pretty optimistic and upbeat for the most part.  I try to enjoy the moments.  But, yesterday was one of those days that spiraled downward to the gates of pessimism.  I found myself sitting with Misery and entertaining her company.

How is it that someone’s projection transfers to our reality?  When another person puts you down embracing your flaws, what happens to the spirit?  I am terrified of rejection, criticism, intolerance, ignorance, hatred, and an array of human emotions that create a detachment in our society.  I am crippled at times by the disgusting behaviors passed onto me by an unhappy person.  I’m paralyzed with anxiety at times, afraid of how humanity has evolved so much metaphysically (in theory) while choosing not to practice fellowship, unity, and peace.  I am scared of those folks who are emotional vampires sucking the life from everyone around them.

I respect and fear the evil in our world: those who speak of peace while holding on to some sort of weapon manipulating the need to control.  We’ve had hundreds of these men who want to create a better world by killing others.  That scares me!  I am alarmed and horrified by hypocrisy, fallacies, lies, manipulation, and confrontations.  I rather hear truth, even if it’s raw and ugly at first, be hurt for a moment than be deceived later on.  Those things rape belief systems, trust, faith, and hope. I am deeply concerned and afraid of love disappearing from our lives with each evolving generation as they hide behind technology rather than human interaction. I am scared shitless of faith and compassion somehow vanishing from our DNA’s.  I am afraid that if we don’t start caring for the earth she will retaliate in horrific ways.

The fact that someone can rattle the core of my being to react in self-loathing is sickening.  I allowed it.  I was reminded of patterns in my old life when I kept quiet.  Yesterday was a recollection of how I don’t tolerate emotional vampires.  Those folks who are unhappy want to create negative pools with others.  They want us to swim with them in their hatred.  I can’t and won’t stand for that any longer.  I was coming out of my skin by night time.  And, what I’ve found today is that we can choose to push a reset button and enter a state of harmony at any time.  I forget how easy it is!

We can’t change what we’ve done but we can change who we are at this very moment.  We can take off the costumes, the masks, the armor suits and show truth to one another.  What would you do if you weren’t afraid to let go and set boundaries?  Truth is that knock on the door of your soul that gently says, “I carry no more baggage and I am here to stay!”  The emotional vampires vanish when we learn to watch the drama and stop participating in their stories.   I will not adhere to the nastiness of people who hate themselves so much that they can look into my eyes and rip me to pieces with their narcissism.  I have to remind myself to send love in those moments.  I have to realize that I am more important than the drama.  I am freedom embraced by Divinity.  Have a blessed day.


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About the Author:  Millie A. Mestril

After raising six children, working in the corporate world, and being part of a relationship for eighteen years, I found that happiness was not consistent in my world.  I left the business world, ended a relationship that was deteriorating and headed to the mountains.  My best friend and I bought a small motel in the middle of gorgeous country and began the greatest journey.  What started as a visit to Asheville in May of 2010 became a permanent home for us.  Now with only one teenager at home, I am able to be part of a wonderful world of meeting people from all walks of life.  We’ve transformed an old gem of a place into a sweet and quaint oasis for others to find peace.  To those looking into our lives it seems we saved Peaceful Quest Retreats, but the reality is that this place saved us.  Every day brings joy, inspiration and a zest for life I never knew existed.  The lessons have not always been easy but the ride has been scenic and delightful.  I can’t imagine ever returning to a life that was not authentic to my spirit. ~ Millie A. Mestril

Please feel free to visit our website at www.peacefulquestretreats.com .  I also have a personal blog at: www.momentswithmillie.wordpress.com











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