All of my life, I have had a deep connection to above and beyond. Always wanting to help and always wanting to heal. However, it wasn’t until a little over a year ago that my purpose in life truly became my passion. It was then -when I felt helpless- that I began my journey to help others. The bridge from tragedy to triumph was transformation.
I must admit, I was scared to change (and still am– as I’m still transitioning), but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Whether we want it or not -or even realize it- we ARE changing! Every stage in life brings something new to us. Pain changes people. Miracles change people. Situations and even people change people. Fear is the root of the unknown. We tend to be afraid of unfamiliar territory. Change is scary, but needed. It is within change that we discover ourselves. We learn what we like, what we don’t like and what we love.
“We must explore life in order to expand our own” –Deanna Lupinacci
I was in such an emotional mess over a year ago, that I felt discouraged. I was hurting so much on the inside that it began to show on the outside. I remember just falling down crying, yet I still had this urge to help others. I even had people who knew me very well telling me I was contradicting. How could a lost girl help someone else find themselves? Would you go to a dentist who had bad teeth? Who would take me seriously? Who would believe in me? I’m sure we all heard the motto “fake it ‘til you make it”, but that’s not authentic. So, I optimistically put a twist on it… “Produce it ‘til you product it”.
I immersed myself in self-help books, vlogs, documentaries and groups. Anything and everything to make me better—to make me happier. Not only was I going through a trying time, but it was even more challenging because I never have gone through something like this before—so I didn’t know where to start—where to go—how to stop it. However, let me be the first (even as a Life Coach) to let you know that sometimes we need to take a step back from drowning our self in help, to have a minute to just breathe. Yes, I’ll say it– it’s OK to feel icky feelings too. They are part of us. Allow yourself to grieve. Grief comes in many forms, not just in someone physically dying. Allow this part of you to die. Fortunate enough, you’ll be able to be re-born. The good thing about falling apart is the fact that you get to rebuild yourself. After exploring, now you get to create.
I’ll never forget my awakening moment—my epiphany. My breakdown became my breakthrough. All because I surrendered. Growing up and even into my adulthood, to hear the words “spiritual” and “surrender” were very intimidating. Just the words themselves sounded like a sales-pitch. It wasn’t anything I wanted to buy. It was the moment I read the words of Marianne Williamson in “A return to love” that I understood what exactly stood behind those words. To surrender isn’t to give up or give in; it’s to let go. It’s not that you’re approving, it’s that you’re accepting. Accepting you cannot change someone (and sometimes something) and to let go of the outcome you have planned. Sometimes we must let go of what we have planned to grab onto what we will love. I also have come to realize that being “spiritual” and being “religious” are different. To be religious is to learn from the outside in; to be spiritual is to learn from the inside out. I had to stop worrying about the outer part of my want, and needed to start listening to the inner part of my needs. I needed to become spiritual. Within those two words, I found my determination and strength to start my mission. It was that “law of attraction” that changed my life.
It’s amazing how once you finally throw your small pebble into that big, beautiful, yet intimidating never-ending ocean, the energy it has to make a powerful ripple effect. Throw your pebble. Make that ripple.
About the Author: Deanna Lupinacci
Deanna, the founder of Soul Serenity Healing, is a Life Coach, Reiki Practitioner and Writer. She puts her belief in new-age therapy with both modern and mystical work healing the mind, body and soul. She has a holistic approach fusing energy cleansing, chakra balancing, spiritual guidance and more for those clients who wish to go deeper and more soulful than talk-therapy. Her hands-on techniques involve a deep, visual, yet fun way of exploring and creating ourselves. She specializes in empowerment (self-esteem and self-love), relationships (communication and co-dependency), coping skills (anxiety and fear) and inner-child work (past, present, future work). She works with men, women and children from all different backgrounds. Deanna holds support groups, wellness workshops, self-help book clubs, programs and private sessions in office (Long Island, NY) as well as via phone/online giving you the tools to build your own happier and healthier life. She is a #1 International Best Seller Author and also feautured in Awakening Daily and The Culture of Awareness promoting health and wellness mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
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