Lighten Up!

Lighten Up!
July 18, 2013 Millie Parmer

image1My life is based on a true story.  There is no embellishing, creating melodrama crap, or constant crazy drama.  If I was to stand back and watch my story unfold on the big screen I would say it was a delightful sarcastic comedy.  Even when the trials and lessons seem too much, there is a twist to the stories that allows me to laugh.   I love laughing.  I enjoy sarcasm, pulling someone’s chain, cracking a joke and just about anything that requires another to lose themselves in a good ole belly giggle.  I don’t take myself seriously and never expect anyone else to either.   Laughter has always been my favorite sound, especially from my kids.  I want to know that joy is visiting and I am present in witnessing it.  Perhaps sometimes I do make remarks that are uncalled for during a serious heart wrenching moment.  Yes, I might come off as a little insensitive during these times.  I am trying to lighten the darkness.  I think we all take life way too seriously.  If God had intended us to be serious He wouldn’t have created Carol Burnett, Benny Hill, Robin Williams, George Carlin, Bill Cosby, Jim Carrey, Adam Sandler, Jerry Seinfeld, or any other great comedian.  We would all be walking around with huge creases on our foreheads from worrying so much.

I can’t fix the world’s problems.  I can’t create peace between nations.  I can’t diminish world hunger.  I can’t do anything powerful to make a change in this world.  But, what I can do is create a place for me to laugh and hopefully make others happy.  I can use my quick Latin wit to force you to lower any freaking expectations of yourself and poke fun at the silly things in life.  I can sit with another and listen closely and when you think you’ve got me in a serious moment make a facial expression that will bring a smile to you.  My best friend always says that my face hides nothing.  I wear every thought on my facial expressions.

It is kind of scary now watching my children and listening to their remarks.  I have created a whole new generation of generous-sarcastic-crazy wit.  They surprise me on a constant basis with their comments.  I can’t reprimand them for something I would say.  I have to stand back and just laugh it off.  Laughter is contagious in this house. I have never faked sarcasm in my life.  There are times that the filter between my thoughts and my mouth do not work.  I blame it on a physiological disorder. Laughter is the best medicine and the older I get the lighter I become.  Even when I am having a bad day I try to get out of the funk by doing something fun. The shortest distance between two people is a smile and a giggle.  It breaks down walls, traumas, social retardation, depression, and creates a youthful environment.  Life is too short, moments are too precious.  Make laughter a priority in your life.  How do you want to be remembered?  Do you want to be part of the light or embrace the negativity?  Laugh at yourself and make today a great day full of endless joy.



About the Author:  Millie A. Mestril

millieAfter raising six children, working in the corporate world, and being part of a relationship for eighteen years, I found that happiness was not consistent in my world.  I left the business world, ended a relationship that was deteriorating and headed to the mountains.  My best friend and I bought a small motel in the middle of gorgeous country and began the greatest journey.  What started as a visit to Asheville in May of 2010 became a permanent home for us.  Now with only one teenager at home, I am able to be part of a wonderful world of meeting people from all walks of life.  We’ve transformed an old gem of a place into a sweet and quaint oasis for others to find peace.  To those looking into our lives it seems we saved Peaceful Quest Retreats, but the reality is that this place saved us.  Every day brings joy, inspiration and a zest for life I never knew existed.  The lessons have not always been easy but the ride has been scenic and delightful.  I can’t imagine ever returning to a life that was not authentic to my spirit. ~ Millie A. Mestril

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